trapping a guy

I was listening to my friends and we all know how girls are. when we see something that we want we get it, and when "think" we have found that right one... well he is the right one b/c he has his own everything and security is important to us females... but nonetheless, that is not the point. the point is that we will do anything to trap a man into either moving into the next part of the relationship or we will try to trap him into marrying us, either way, those plans are set up to fail... we shouldn't have to trap someone or strike fear in them to be w/ us... Ladies that is dumb and childish we need to get to a point where we trust ourselves and we know who we are and if that man doesn't want you then that is his lost we need to stay this pity party for ourselves, and then we get mad when the marriage fails... Hello, its your fault. allow stuff to happen naturally don't force it.